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So... I told my mom
Dec. 3rd, 2014 01:06 amI think yesterday was the first time I'd actually called myself asexual out loud in front of another human being. Thanks, ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
melydia, for being understanding. *hugs*
Tonight I told my mom. I was over at my parents' place to get some of my stuff and it was already getting kind of late. After I'd rounded up the stuff, tried on some clothes, and had a piece of pie, it was time to leave. Dad was in bed and Mom was starting in on the "it was great you stopped by" bit. So I interrupted that and told her I had something to tell her and didn't know how to say it. She looked at me and said "It's okay. I might already know what it is. Just say it." So I did. And she was smiling. She said she thought that might be it and asked if I'd read the article in the Washington Post a couple days ago all about asexuality and the local meetup group. That's where she'd heard of it the first time. She asked me how I thought I knew and I told her I'd never been sexually attracted to any person and she said something like "well, that's pretty clear then!" So we talked for a while about the article and about me in particular and she was totally fine. Okay, she did say a few things that are trademark reactions from people who don't quite understand yet. But these things take time; I didn't expect her to be all-knowing. I mentioned that I'd recently seen a documentary on Asexuality and she immediately asked if she should watch it. Which I took to be really supportive. I told her about OK Cupid recently adding asexual as an orientation choice. She still seems to REALLY want me to get married, which I'm not opposed to if I were to find someone whose dynamics are compatible with mine and who I just so happen to love and want to spend my life with (and cuddle the fuck out of). I told her about the ring and chickening out saying something during Thanksgiving dinner. Also, I may have cried a little. She was a good listener and very supportive and positive. Also gave me hugs. But she was mostly just SUPER happy that I didn't feel broken any more (I used to tell her that all the time, that I felt broken, and this was one of the main reasons). And she was so happy I had learned there was a term for how I felt and that I was happy with myself. What a great Mom. I was so worried she'd be disappointed about no marriage and no kids EVER and all she wants is for her daughters to be happy. She's the best.
Washington Post article: http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/asexuals-seek-to-raise-awareness-of-the-invisible-orientation/2014/11/24/5dc92d3a-6b7a-11e4-b053-65cea7903f2e_story.html
*deep breath* So I didn't get home until 11:30pm, but it was worth it. We talked a lot. And I'm glad I could be open with her about how I feel.
I now return you to our previously scheduled fangirling ;-) Speaking of which, my fangirl blog has been locking me out these past few days when I try to go in to update. But as soon as I can do so, I will be starting another round of 12 Days of Fandom ornaments!
melydia, for being understanding. *hugs* Tonight I told my mom. I was over at my parents' place to get some of my stuff and it was already getting kind of late. After I'd rounded up the stuff, tried on some clothes, and had a piece of pie, it was time to leave. Dad was in bed and Mom was starting in on the "it was great you stopped by" bit. So I interrupted that and told her I had something to tell her and didn't know how to say it. She looked at me and said "It's okay. I might already know what it is. Just say it." So I did. And she was smiling. She said she thought that might be it and asked if I'd read the article in the Washington Post a couple days ago all about asexuality and the local meetup group. That's where she'd heard of it the first time. She asked me how I thought I knew and I told her I'd never been sexually attracted to any person and she said something like "well, that's pretty clear then!" So we talked for a while about the article and about me in particular and she was totally fine. Okay, she did say a few things that are trademark reactions from people who don't quite understand yet. But these things take time; I didn't expect her to be all-knowing. I mentioned that I'd recently seen a documentary on Asexuality and she immediately asked if she should watch it. Which I took to be really supportive. I told her about OK Cupid recently adding asexual as an orientation choice. She still seems to REALLY want me to get married, which I'm not opposed to if I were to find someone whose dynamics are compatible with mine and who I just so happen to love and want to spend my life with (and cuddle the fuck out of). I told her about the ring and chickening out saying something during Thanksgiving dinner. Also, I may have cried a little. She was a good listener and very supportive and positive. Also gave me hugs. But she was mostly just SUPER happy that I didn't feel broken any more (I used to tell her that all the time, that I felt broken, and this was one of the main reasons). And she was so happy I had learned there was a term for how I felt and that I was happy with myself. What a great Mom. I was so worried she'd be disappointed about no marriage and no kids EVER and all she wants is for her daughters to be happy. She's the best.
Washington Post article: http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/asexuals-seek-to-raise-awareness-of-the-invisible-orientation/2014/11/24/5dc92d3a-6b7a-11e4-b053-65cea7903f2e_story.html
*deep breath* So I didn't get home until 11:30pm, but it was worth it. We talked a lot. And I'm glad I could be open with her about how I feel.
I now return you to our previously scheduled fangirling ;-) Speaking of which, my fangirl blog has been locking me out these past few days when I try to go in to update. But as soon as I can do so, I will be starting another round of 12 Days of Fandom ornaments!
