Oddness in relationships

[tarotgal]

You know, for as many books and movies and tv shows I've read/watched/seen I figured I'd seen just about every odd permutation to relationships that existed. But, alas, not so.

Tonight I discovered one of the most interesting: the arranged break-up. Now I've been through outright dumping... and I've been through ammicable break-ups. But this is an arranged break-up. Boyfriend wants us to break up at the end of the month when I move 4 hours away and yet, apparently, still wants to be dating and having sex and all until then.

Um. yeah. Does this make sense to anyone, or am I rightly confused? LOL!

Okay, so I know it's good that we finally talked about what's going to happen when we move away from this area- because we never have before. But he chose in the CAR while I was DRIVING to discuss it. So I'm attempting to drive 55 miles an hour and not hit anything while crying LOL

And it really is the best solution, although I probably would have preferred an open-ended let's see how it goes long distance thing. But Boyfriend doesn't like open-ended things. And we've both been through enough long distance relationships to know that never works. So it really is for the best. I am just kinda weirded out. I mean, do I treat him as a friend and fuck buddy? Knowing it's only going to last a couple more weeks?

Okay, so I was being emotional as always (I've pretty much been crying for the last two days nonstop, so it's no big thing- I bought Clear Eyes tonight to help because I can't open them after a couple hours of hard crying, LOL) and he, sweet guy that he is, goes and wiped one of my tears away. Awwwwwww, right? Wrong. LOL He then wipes his hand on his shorts and says 'Why is it that it's much grosser doing that than sticking my hand up your pussy?'

It was then that I was fucking glad this thing is going to end. LOL! I mean, I know I have high expectations due to the romances in fantasy stories I read as a kid... but that's just creepy.

It's just weird. I've never experienced a timed break-up before. Usually it's just 'Let's break up now.' 'Okay.' Not 'Let's break up in two weeks and pretend like nothing's changed until then.' Very weird. Definitely something I'd never anticipated or encountered before.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: Men suck. *sigh* Why couldn't I be a lesbian? Or at least bi? Not that it would make relationships any easier... but men just plan suck. Too bad I'm still horribly attracted to mine. LOL

I guess the good thing about this is not having to drive 4 hours to see Harry Potter 3 with him on June 3rd. I can just go with my sister. Bet he didn't think of that, now did he? Bwa ha ha!

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

He sounds like such an ass! I say forget the timed thing, and end it on your terms right now! Okay, I know, I'm rash, and easier said than done. But you know, I don't know you very well, but you are SOO too good for him, girl. Hang in there, times are bad for everyone, not just you, but things should get better soon. They always do. *GGG*
~A

[tarotgal]

LOL You said here exactly what my mother just said on the phone :-)
And you're right, things do get better eventually. It's not like I'm overly hurt or anything... just a little... and a little weirded out, too. LOL But it's everything changing in my life all at one time, just sort of hard to handle.
Hope things look up for you as well! *huge hugs* Thanks for the kind words here. :-)

[girlwithtulips.livejournal.com]

*hugs* That is so not cool. I mean, I can't judge because I don't know you guys in real life, but... gods, that's so not fair on you. You're much too nice for your own good, you know! And, telling you while driving? And that comment after wiping away your tears? Utter, total prick. Stolen quote: no man is worth your tears, but the one who is will never make you cry. So, yeah. *hugs*

[madeleinemaria.livejournal.com]

It sounds like you should be glad of getting rid of him. :)
Sure, it can be hard to end any relationship, but... well, he doesn't sound worthy you. :)

[ladymiriamele.livejournal.com]

Be glad you're not a lesbian! Lol, believe me, girls are DIFFICULT. ;)

*Hugs* I'm really sorry :( But hey, you'll be single and on the loose! Party at your place!!!! :D

[(Anonymous)]

bleh! he used the p**** word. I hate that word. and tears are gross? its just salt water!

i have been part of an arranged break up too, its hard, i tend to cling to people even if I know i shouldnt even be with them.


bleh. hope youre doing okay, it can be hard, but if you arent right for each other maybe it will be a blessing to have to move on from him -fae